Harley Street Counselling & Training Psychotherapy & counselling in Central London, City of London,
Tunbridge Wells & Rochester, in Kent

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Harley Street Counselling & Training • How can we help?

We start with an outline of current issues we can help with that are commonly brought to counselling. Please select a title that reflects your personal circumstances.

Addiction - Alcoholism
Adult children of alcoholics
Chronic fatigue
Depression & postnatal depression
Dissociation - Abuse - Trauma
Dyslexia & dyspraxia in adults
Jealousy & insecurity
Recurring dreams & nightmares

Additional Interest & Speciality:
Boxing: Therapy for boxers (amateur, professional & retired)

Addiction counselling

Do you need to eliminate alcohol from your life?
In our view, addiction is best worked with therapeutically when there is a good support network. The input from a G.P or Psychiatrist to manage physical withdrawal and full engagement with a group such as Alcoholics Anonymous is beneficial.
We support the idea of abstinence and the AA 12 step approach to recovery. We have worked with many clients who are engaged in the fellowship whilst working with us. Acknowledging that AA is not for everyone, we also work with people who choose abstinence through alternative methods.

'One drink is too many and one hundred is not enough'.

What points can you relate to when reflecting on your relationship with alcohol?
  • I cannot stop at one drink.
  • I frequently try to give up alcohol or reduce my intake but find this unsustainable.
  • I cannot fulfill promises to myself and others to give up drinking.
  • I am deceptive about how much I am drinking.
  • I use alcohol to change the way I feel.
  • Using alcohol has consequences on my life.

    Therapy could help you identify healthy ways of working with feelings and dealing with underlying issues.

    Alcohol has been proven to increase the risk of symptoms of anxiety and depression therefore alcohol does not solve problems, it reinforces them.

    What locations do you offer addiction therapy?
    Addiction counselling Harley Street.
    Addiction counselling Tunbridge Wells.
    Addiction counselling Rochester Kent.
    Addiction counselling city of London.

    We also offer counselling to those affected by addiction such as carers, family members and adult children of alcoholics as well as clients who are attending NA, SLAA, CoDA, CA and OA for recovery.

  • Adult children of alcoholics

    An Adult Child is an adult who grew up in a dysfunctional environment where the parent was an alcoholic or an addict.

    Janet G. Woititz (1990) published 'Adult Children of Alcoholics' - describes the experience of an Adult Child as having common personality traits.
  • Adult Children of Alcoholics guess at what normal behaviour is.
  • They have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
  • They lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
  • They take themselves very seriously.
  • There is difficulty with intimate relationships.
  • Overreact to changes.
  • Constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  • Either super responsible or irresponsible and impulsive.
  • Extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training facilitate change by working through emotional and psychological issues. ACoA psychotherapy and counselling.

  • Anxiety Counselling

    Have you ever felt worried over an exam, a presentation, or entering a room full of people? Is your day becoming more and more consumed by overthinking and worry?

    Anxiety is the feeling of unease or fear when faced with a threatening or difficult situation, either real or perceived. It is also one of the most common reasons why people seek the support of a counsellor at Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    How does anxiety manifest?
    Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) often relates to worry and overthinking. Social anxiety disorder extends to concerns about public ridicule, embarrassment or being judged.

    Panic disorder is often experienced as overwhelmingly sudden feelings of terror which could induce a panic attack.

    Somatisation, where emotions manifest as physical symptoms. The pain is medically unexplained. However, it is real. Sometimes existing pain from physical causes can be made worse by focusing on pain.

    Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety-based mental health issue. It has proven that working with the behavioural aspects of OCD is the most effective way of working.

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    What are the signs & symptoms of anxiety?

    Symptoms commonly reported by clients in Counselling and Psychotherapy.

  • Physical
    Hyperventilating, shortness of breath, palpitations, muscle tension, nausea, butterflies, increased trips to the toilet, headaches, eye strain, tinitus, dry mouth, sweating, shaking, restless energy (adrenaline), twitches, dizziness, and too little or too much sleep.

  • Psychological
    Worry, feelings of unease, over thinking, catastrophising, obsessive thinking, black and White/all or nothing thinking, perfectionist, overwhelming emotions, low self-esteem, fear of being judged, a harsh self critic, feeling emotionally younger, difficulty concentrating, poor short term memory, indecisive, feeling out of control and too many thoughts at once.

  • Behavioural
    Avoidance, checking, over researching symptoms, seeking reassurance, self medicating, restlessness, attempts to control environment.

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  • Bereavement Counselling

    Counselling can be supportive during a difficult and painful time. The loss of a loved one can have a big impact on us. From numbness to a range of emotions, feeling bereft of someone close to us can affect us in many ways.

    Feelings of grief can come and go and we may go through cycles of anger, denial, despair, depression whilst adjusting to life without our loved one. A bereavement counsellor can offer you a safe space to support you through this process that has no fixed time limit. Acceptance may form a large part of the healing and you will know when you feel ready.

    We can also experience feelings of grief and loss whenever a major change or event occurs in life. Such changes might include separation, divorce, our response to an affair or betrayal, loss of health, moving home, difficulty conceiving, IVF treatment, miscarriage, abortion, children leaving home, redundancy, or retirement.

    Feelings that come with grief and loss are a natural response to life changes. However, long term it can lead to depression and anxiety. Psychotherapists and counsellors at Harley Street Counselling and Training are here to provide a confidential space where you can be heard in a safe, confidential environment.

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    Counselling for Bullying

    Do you live in dread of the next day?

    Bullying can be demoralising, disempowering and leave a person with symptoms of anxiety, depression, panic attacks and stress.

    It can impact our self-esteem and may create confusion. If you feel bullied, then the likelihood is that you are. A therapist can help change your perception towards the bully and help you to build confidence and self-esteem.

    Chronic fatigue

    Therapy can play a supportive role with issues related to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

    A programme of pacing can be negotiated and the impact of the loss of health can be explored. How energy is distributed is also key, for example worry and anxiety can be a component in some cases which uses up a lot of much-needed energy. Strategies to minimise the symptoms of chronic fatigue can be discussed with the counsellor.

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    Co-dependency Counselling

    The characteristics of co-dependency are not exclusive to partners of alcoholics or addicts - it's quite a wide area.

    If you were raised in a dysfunctional environment as a child or had a parent that was ill growing up, it increases the chances of co-dependency in adulthood, but again, not exclusive. It's worth considering counselling and psychotherapy if you relate to some of the statements outlined.

  • My mood is determined by the mood of others.
  • I like things to be perfect and sometimes feel bad about myself when they're not.
  • I have difficulty saying "NO!"
  • What others think is really important to me. I worry about being judged.
  • I neglect my own needs to accommodate others.
  • I do not know what I need or how I feel.
  • I am unclear of my own interests and become immersed in the interests of others.
  • I tend to please people, often to my own detriment.
  • I am drawn to people who need me.
  • I feel rejected if my help is not wanted or needed.
  • I feel responsible for the feelings of others.
  • I blame others for the way I feel.
  • I hold many resentments and find it hard to let things go.
  • I tend to avoid conflict.
  • Sometimes I use alcohol or other substances to change the way I feel.
  • Sometimes I feel the need to control those around me.
  • I feel like I always need to be in a relationship and struggle to end relationships.
  • I struggle to receive compliments from others.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training offer counselling and psychotherapy to facilitate change. It might be useful to attend CoDA which is a 12-step programme for additional support where you will meet others in recovery. Find a therapist.

  • Dyslexia and dyspraxia in adults

    Dyslexia is an impairment to reading, writing and spelling. Dyspraxia effects motor skills and coordination and are life-long conditions.
    Other symptoms include poor memory, spatial awareness, organisation and many more. However, many exceptional talents are also common in Dyslexia and Dyspraxia such as creative thinking, originality, seeing the whole picture of a situation quickly, intuitive and empathic understanding.

    The spin-off life experiences might include stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, frustration, bullying, and historical treatment by teachers and influential adults. The lead therapist for Harley Street Counselling and Training has Dyslexia and Dyspraxia and is passionate about offering support and appreciates that everyone has a different experience.

    There are many famous names that have Dyslexia or Dyspraxia: Albert Einstein, Richard Branson, Tom Cruise, Daniel Radcliffe and Florence Welch.

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    Counselling for depression and postnatal depression

    There are several types of Depression such as reactive, postnatal depression, season-affective disorder (SAD), bipolar types I and II. In general, sufferers of depression might experience low mood, highs, lows, worthlessness, meaninglessness, difficulty concentrating, short-term memory loss, mood swings, low self-esteem, lack of motivation, lethargy, lack of enthusiasm and negative thoughts.

    Depression can make socialising more difficult and impact on our relationships, work, interests and wellbeing. Some people mask depression, hiding it from others and may appear happy. In the case of bipolar, the person may experience regular highs and lows.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training accept referrals for mild to moderate depression, bipolar, reactive depression and seasonal effective disorder. Depression that occurs up to two years after giving birth is known as Post-Natal Depression. Counselling can be used as support during this period.

    Counselling for Post Natal Depression
    Depression that occurs up to two years after giving birth is known as Post-Natal depression.
    You may experience low mood, worthlessness, meaninglessness, lethargy, mood swings and a lack of confidence and self-esteem. These symptoms may be present for women, men and partners and may gradually creep up on you rather than feel immediately obvious.

    NHS Choices describe the symptoms as:

  • A persistent feeling of sadness and low mood

  • Lack of enjoyment and loss of interest in the wider world

  • Trouble sleeping at night and feeling sleepy during the day

  • Difficulty bonding with your baby

  • Withdrawing from contact with other people

  • Problems concentrating and making decisions

  • Frightening thoughts – for example, about hurting your baby

  • Speaking from experience, several themes seem to stand out for clients who come to therapy for postnatal depression.

    Unresolved family and friendship issues: Tensions, resentments, or past disagreements that go unresolved (prior to a child being born) tends to come back and affect the person overwhelmingly.

    Unresolved grief: from our past.

    Adjusting: To the unforeseen changes that occur in life when a new baby arrives.

    Over compensating: Feeling the need to ‘make it up’ to people on your return to work after having time on maternity leave and putting your needs last.

    Competition: A real or perceived experience of competitive parents within the latest baby and toddler group. This often impacts self-worth and self-esteem.

    Heightened awareness: Feelings of anxiety and going deeper into over thinking and worry.

    The feeling of loneliness: even if we have people around us we may still feel a sense of withdrawal and isolation.

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    Dissociation • Abuse • Trauma

    Sometimes we can become so traumatised that our body and mind disconnect from the situation to protect ourselves. Ever heard of flight, flight, freeze and fragment? In a trauma or panic we may experience one of these things.

    When a person experiences a dreamy state where there is no panic or feeling of terror, this is called dissociation. After a traumatic event a person can drift in and out of this state.

    If a person dissociates for a long time, you may develop a dissociative disorder. Instead of dissociation being something you experience short term, it becomes a far more common experience and often the main way stressful experiences are dealt with.
    There are various dissociative disorders, and some people may experience other mental health problems also.

  • Signs and symptoms of dissociation
  • The feeling of being outside of your body, clumsiness, losing connection with all or parts of your body, significant stress, memory loss, distorted perception, anxiety, feeling numb or devoid of emotion, forgetfulness, and depression.

    Psychological trauma to the body or mind refers to a powerful emotional response to a singular or series of events. The after effects may be overwhelming and a person may feel scared, isolated, vulnerable and socially disconnected.
    Not everyone will react to an event in the same way and for some, the symptoms may take weeks, months or many years to surface.
    Instead, the trauma may be buried beneath depression, anxiety, or anger without the awareness of the cause.

    Sometimes we can become so traumatised that our body and mind disconnect from the situation to protect ourselves. In a trauma or panic we may experience fight, flight, freeze or fragment.

    How can an event lead to trauma?
  • An experience was not expected and causes shock
  • An event was not acceptable & intentional – physically, emotionally, or socially.
  • The situation was unpreventable without preparation
  • The experience happened repeatedly

  • Examples of events that could lead to psychological trauma:

  • Abuse
  • (physical, psychological, sexual and verbal).Suffering from any form of abuse can contribute to low self-esteem, isolation, fear, depression, panic attacks, anxiety, anger, nightmares, lack of trust and self-destructive behaviour such as alcohol or drug use. You may have experienced suicidal thoughts, and feelings of shame and worthlessness.

  • Emotional and psychological abuse
  • This form of abuse can be as destroying as physical violence, but harder to identify. The abusive process may unravel slowly; the abuser appears to be charming and lead the victim to feel wanted and desired. However, the abuse can be masked with affection, but become controlling and lead to intense, jealous behaviour.

    The victim can be on the receiving end of threats, criticism, manipulation, belittlement, insults, degrading, accusations. They may also have suicide threats from an abuser if they attempt to leave. The victim may also feel rejected or neglected and confused at the abuser’s power games.

  • Physical abuse
  • When a person intentionally causes harm or injury through physical contact or violence. Domestic abuse can be extremely damaging and can lead to hospitalisation or fatality.

  • Sexual abuse
  • Adults who have experienced sexual abuse (present and/or historical) may be pressured or forced to take part in a sexual act, endure unconsented touching or photographing. Historical child abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional/mental, exploitation and neglect.
    This abuse can cause many issues throughout adulthood which can affect relationships and trust in others. A person may also feel worthless and have self-destructive behaviour.

  • Accident, physical injury or surgery
  • The shock of being involved in an accident, or witnessing one can cause a traumatic response, as can physical injury.
    Enduring life-threatening injuries, suffering a bad fall, losing a limb, accidentally injuring someone, or receiving blows in an attack can also all require emotional support. These examples can impact psychologically, as well as physically.

  • Community violence
  • Shooting, stabbing, fighting, mugging, burglary, bullying, physical or sexual assault. These can be frightening and life-threatening experiences. These can have a major effect on our lives.

  • Disastrous events
  • War and conflict as well as natural disasters such as earthquakes, tsunamis, hurricanes, floods and fires. These can all affect us both directly and indirectly.

  • Unexpected or violent death of someone close
  • Whether the death is by suicide, accident, caused by a crime, or serious illness. They can all have a traumatic effect.

    Any of the above examples can cause both emotional and physical symptoms for many years after the event if not dealt with.

  • Emotional and psychological symptoms
  • Anxiety and fear, anger and mood swings, confusion, shock, denial or disbelief, guilt, shame and self-blame. Feeling sad, hopeless or depressed. Withdrawing from others and feeling disconnected.

  • Physical symptoms of trauma
  • Racing heartbeat, shaking, aches and pains, jumpy, edginess, fatigue, muscle tension, difficulty concentrating, and insomnia.

  • How can we help?
  • Counselling offers a supportive space to explore your thoughts and feelings and enables you to make sense of your experience. You may be offered coping strategies to deal with painful experiences as well as understand the attachment and dependency issues of abusive relationships. Louise Harris can support you through re-establishing and empowering your self-esteem and to work through resulting trauma through counselling.

    Our counsellor Louise Harris is a skilled therapist with Harley Street Counselling and Training who can help you to overcome difficult life experiences. She is passionate about working with those who have experienced trauma, abuse and dissociation.

    Counselling for Jealousy and insecurity

    Do you feel insecure about friendships or relationships? Do you blame the others for the way you feel? Do you try to find evidence that your partner is untrustworthy, even setting traps to catch them out? Do you fear being abandoned?

    Recurring jealousy is a powerful form of insecurity that results in emotional outbursts and is driven by irrational thinking. Habitual jealousy can be toxic for relationships. You may find that you concentrate so much by what your partner might be up to; sacrificing your own freedom and living your own life within a loving relationship. Even if we feel justified, our reactions do not promote a good way forward for the relationship to flourish.

    Carrying the burden of these feelings can contaminate our self-esteem and we may feel angry, inadequate, and dependent. Jealousy can feel all-consuming and can leave you feeling exhausted and miserable.

    Feelings of jealousy can be overwhelming and can become the bone of contention within your relationships. The more jealous we feel, the more controlling our behaviour becomes. A therapist can help explore past and present causes of jealousy and manage overwhelming feelings and insecurities.

    Recurring dreams and nightmares

    This can be a symptom of anxiety which can be worked through with a counsellor who is able to work with dreams using Gestalt therapy techniques.

    You may have had medical tests regarding recurring dreams and nightmares - if the results have offered you few answers then maybe therapy is an option for you to explore. We have experience working in this area.

    Counselling for Stress

    Stress can touch anyone regardless of who you are or what you do for a living. Stress occurs when the demands of our lives consistently outweighs our ability to cope. We often experience this as pressure and can lead to anxiety, depression or can lead to 'burn out'.

    Burnout: This is normally a result of overstimulation or excessive stress. Physical, psychological and emotional exhaustion, frustration, intolerance, relationship issues, lack of self-care, low mood and lack of motivation are likely to be some of the indicators of burn out.

    Over time, you find that you are losing energy; as your zest for life fades. By now this may have impacted important relationships and work life. A counsellor can help you spot the signs, manage the symptoms, work on preventative measures and go forward with greater meaning and purpose.

    Rust out:Described in the media as 'bore out', rust out is the opposite of a burn out yet the symptoms are pretty much the same. Rust out is normally a result of understimulation. Apathy, boredom, disinterest and lack of meaning are common experiences.

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