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15th January 2021 
Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Counselling Tunbridge Wells.

Counselling Tunbridge Wells

We are a busy private counselling practice at SPA House, consisting of a small team of psychotherapists and counsellors lead by Tim Potter.

We might seek out psychotherapy and counselling in times when we feel our ability to cope is impaired. When facing up to a problem that is difficult to discuss, we ensure that we provide a supportive, safe, and confidential environment. We can work cooperatively with a diverse range of healthcare professionals in Tunbridge Wells who might refer you for counselling. Most of our referrals arrive by word of mouth.

We continue to develop strong relationships locally in Tunbridge Wells. We have been published in the Spring edition of the Tunbridge Wells NCT magazine in 2017. We are passionate about raising awareness of private psychotherapy and counselling in the area.

Additionally we offer.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Clinician of Viktor Frankls’ Logotherapy

Ego State Therapy
DNMS and Self- Reparenting

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing.

If you are seeking therapy via a provider of private medical health insurance you may need to see your local G.P. to be referred. You can find out more about using the links that follow:

AXA PPP counsellor in Tunbridge Wells.

AVIVA counsellor in Tunbridge Wells.

Bupa counsellor in Tunbridge Wells.

Appointment times.
Lead therapist: Tuesday to Friday.
Therapists: Monday, Thursday and Saturday.

Therapists: 65 per session.
Couples-Counselling: 85 per session.
Lead Therapist: 80 per session - Registered psychotherapist with private health insurers where fees will vary.

SPA House,
18 Upper Grosvenor Road
Tunbridge Wells

Go to parking information.

We are placed centrally in Tunbridge Wells on the edge of the town. A short walk from Fenwicks and Tesco. It is approximately a 15 minute walk from Tunbridge Wells mainline station and perhaps 5 minutes more from the station at High Brooms. We are in easy distance of TN1, TN2, TN3, TN4 & TN5 postcodes.

"From the first session, I felt supported without being judged" Anonymous, Tunbridge Wells.

Are you feeling consumed by worry and overthinking? Counselling for anxiety in Tunbridge Wells.

CBT therapy Tunbridge Wells

What is CBT?
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is the favoured approach to therapy in the NHS. CBT is generally considered a short-term option to therapy from 4 to 18 sessions. In our experience, CBT tends to work well with a specific problem without additional complex factors or interrelated issues. CBT can be effective as part of an integrated approach to counselling or psychotherapy. We offer CBT from SPA House in Tunbridge Wells, and is often helpful for generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), panic disorder, health anxiety, OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and depression.

CBT helps you to challenge the way you think, feel, and behave and teaches ways of coping with specific situations. Techniques are offered in regard to how we think (cognitive) and how we act out or demonstrate (behavioural).

We may think in ways that are unhelpful to us; for example, catastrophising or over thinking where we over estimate the problem whilst simultaneously, we underestimate our capacity to manage the problem. This thought pattern will highly influence our behaviour. For example, we might act by avoiding the situation. Avoidance is a safety behaviour which keeps us from resolving the problem.

Behavioural change can occur when coping strategies are engaged. The behavioural aspects of CBT are frequently the most effective in helping clients to help themselves, whereas the focus on the cognitive aspects of CBT, can be more appealing to a therapist, but they may find themselves entrenched in ‘thinking’ and can get stuck with the client. Effective behavioural change likely influences how we think and feel towards a situation.

Mindfulness-based CBT encourages clients to pay attention to the here and now through techniques heavily influenced by meditation and yoga. Mindfulness-based CBT has seen a rise in popularity in recent years and borrows heavily from other forms of therapy, such as Gestalt therapy and Logotherapy. It is really important that therapists have the professional wherewithal to know when mindfulness is unhelpful, or when mindfulness is not yet a helpful course of action.

Make an appointment in Tunbridge Wells for CBT with one of our therapists.

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Logotherapy in Tunbridge Wells

What is Logotherapy?
Logos is Greek for meaning. Happiness is a by-product of having meaning in your life. Logotherapy defines that meaning is the force of life. This approach is effective with anxiety, addiction, depression, identity, and stress. This is because the techniques associated with Logotherapy aim to meet the deficits that occur when we are leading an unfulfilled life.

The therapy consists of working towards responsibility, the minimisation, (and eventual ending) of symptoms and can be used to help with health anxiety, post natal depression, stress and many other related issues.

Dr Viktor Frankl believed that we all harbour the will to find meaning. When we are affected by meaninglessness it creates an 'existential vacuum'. Feeling despondent, bored, alone (invisible), lethargic and unmotivated. When we feel this way, basic tasks seem hard.

Dr Frankl formed the basis of his ideas as a result of his experiences as a Holocaust survivor as an inmate at Auschwitz throughout the second world war. He documented his experiences explicitly in a book entitled 'Man's search for meaning'.

Through his brutal experience, Dr Viktor Frankl became passionate about the notion that we can find meaning from unavoidable suffering, which formed the basis for Logotherapy.

Logotherapy is a collaborative approach to therapy with specific techniques. Logotherapy is easily integrated into most approaches to therapy. This form of therapy is available in Tunbridge Wells from our rooms at SPA House near the town centre. We are the only providers of Logotherapy in the area.

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Ego State Therapy in Tunbridge Wells

In Tunbridge Wells, we provide a specialised form of ego-state therapy. Specifically, the therapy is called the DNMS, as devised by Shirley Jean Schmidt. The DNMS (Developmental Needs Meets Strategy) is a form of self-reparenting therapy that is a client centred ego state therapy.

The DNMS has a series of protocols to work through in sessions. It is an approach that can work with a wide range of issues and is informed by EMDR, attachment theory, self-reparenting therapy, mirror neurons and developmental psychology.

At the time of writing, we are the only providers listed on the DNMS website in the South of England and one of a very few qualified in Europe.

Contact a counsellor in Tunbridge Wells.

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Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Private parking at Tunbridge Wells Location

Private parking at SPA House

Visitor guide for parking at SPA House.

Please park in bay 9 marked in blue.

Use bay 8 as an alternative only.

We do not have permission to use any other parking space.

The allocated space is for the use of clients coming for counselling and cannot be used for any other purpose.

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Counselling Tunbridge Wells. AXA PPP Psychotherapy Tunbridge Wells

AXA PPP recognised psychotherapist.

Lead therapist, Tim Potter is recognised with most private medical health insurers......view counsellor profile. Please note that often a different fee structure will be in place for counselling funded through private health insurance. Also, the way the fee is obtained will differ from company to company.

Tim is a recognised psychotherapist with AXA PPP. You will need to approach your insurers to see if they will authorise counselling sessions. AXA PPP will then give you a code to authorise treatment to pass to the therapist prior to the first counselling session. Psychotherapy and counselling through AXA PPP in Tunbridge Wells is 85 per session. In this case, the counsellor will invoice AXA PPP directly.

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Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Aviva

Counselling with an AVIVA policy.

Psychotherapy and counselling in Tunbridge Wells through an AVIVA policy. The therapist will claim the fee directly from AVIVA subject to obtaining treatment authorisation. The fee is 100 per session.

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Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Bupa Counsellor Tunbridge Wells

Bupa recognised provider

You may need to visit your local G.P if you have a Bupa, policy. This might be a helpful step to take particularly if you are experiencing the symptoms of anxiety or depression. You can request Tim Potter directly to Bupa who can authorise sessions. Bupa will normally grant 10 sessions of counselling initially and they will give you a treatment authorisation number that we will need before the first session.

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Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Cigna Counsellor Tunbridge Wells

Other private medical health insurers.

Policies through Cigna are charged at 100 per session. The client will pay the therapist directly. The client will claim this back from the insurers using a receipt issued by Harley Street Counselling and Training.

Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Simply Health Counsellor Tunbridge Wells

The same protocol is in place for Simply Health policies.

The difference in fee structure is due to a couple of factors. Mainly, it is the arrangement between the insurance provider and the practitioner (which differs with each insurer). This is also determined by the additional administration involved.

Counselling Tunbridge Wells. WPA Therapist Tunbridge Wells

Therapy through WPA is also available and will require you probably to ask for the chosen therapist directly.

Excess payments will be requested in full after the first session has taken place.

In the event that counselling sessions are left unpaid by the insurance provider, and for any reason, the client will then be liable for costs.

Contact a counsellor in Tunbridge Wells.

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Specialised therapy for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. CBT for OCD in Tunbridge Wells.

Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Anxiety and Depression Psychotherapy Award

Private Healthcare Awards 2019

We are pleased to accept the award of 'Leading practitioner in Anxiety and Depression Psychotherapy 2019.'

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Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Mother and Baby

Postnatal depression and Mum bloggers.

Mum Bloggers in the UK
It is increasingly evident that influential bloggers are an additional form of information and support for those who read them. This offers a sense that people are not alone. This led me to explore the rise of 'Mum Bloggers' which loosely relates to an article Harley Street Counselling and Training contributed to in 2016 about counselling and postnatal depression. This appeared in both the Spring edition of the Tunbridge Wells NCT magazine and My Tunbridge Wells - which informs its visitors about local events, classes and activities in order to inspire families in Tunbridge Wells.

Tunbridge Wells Mothers do ave em has become a post about how inspirational mothers view motherhood and what advice would they offer mums-to-be from the perspective of 3 contributors who kindly responded to a series of questions.

Interview with Tunbridge Wells Mums
Our contributors are Vickey from Mama Mixers which is a group who plan social events for mums in Tunbridge Wells. Hattie from ‘That Mum Blog’ Mumsnet award finalist blogger for a comic writer, and from Tunbridge Wells. And Beth E. Lee, who is a writer from Tunbridge Wells and a student of psychology and neuroscience at Kings College London.

Harley Street Counselling and Training: What was your fantasy about the idea of motherhood before starting a family?

Vickey – Before becoming a mother, I thought motherhood meant middle age, short crop haircut and practical clothes. I thought I would become a mother would mean I became a ‘mum -bore’ with nothing to talk about but my kids. I don’t think I thought a lot about the day to day reality of having a baby, just how it would affect me.

Hattie - Having a background and experience in childcare, I would be able to navigate all the physical demands (nappy changing, behaviour management when the baby grew up etc) and did not think about the emotional and physical demands. The idea that motherhood mainly involved changing nappies and feeling tired was something that seemed to be consistent with everything I had seen in films and on TV.

Beth – Before having children, I thought having a baby would be just like a job. Like an event. You just have to plan and follow the schedule and everything would be fine.

Harley Street Counselling and Training: How did you experience the reality of motherhood?

Vickey -
I have found that I am still the same person I was before but I have evolved. Lots of things change - your freedom to do what you want when you want, your career usually gets put on hold and you’re tired to briefly sum it up. In becoming a mother, I have become a lot more patient, a lot more understanding of other people and what they might be going through. It can be a lonely place so I’m aware of that and this has softened my personality that was perhaps a little hard before. Also, sleep deprivation is the hardest to deal with, I can understand now why it’s used as a form of torture! I love my sleep so much so it was very hard adjusting to not having a full 8 + hours a night.

Hattie – I found it incredibly relentless. I found caring for another human 24/7 a hugely stressful concept and I couldn’t believe how much time the mundane jobs took up. I couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that I could control a class of 30 children but I couldn’t get one baby to stop crying. I found early motherhood both incredibly boring and completely exhausting which was such a strange combination of feelings which I hadn’t experienced prior to having a baby. It sounds ridiculous in hindsight but the fact that every day with a baby is exactly the same hadn’t occurred to me either. Getting up all through the need to feed on a Friday night and starting the day at 5 on a Saturday, just like all the other days, seemed cruel – did the baby not know it was the weekend?!

Beth – Terribly. For me, nothing was as I expected. I thought I could be one of those women "who had it all." I didn’t want a screaming child, I wanted a cooing little human. I didn’t want to give up the high-profile career that I had worked so hard to achieve. I wanted to prove to everyone that I was superwoman and could do my job AND look after the baby too. I didn’t want to sacrifice my life for someone else’s needs, I wanted to fulfil what I thought was my need to be a mother. Those were my selfish issues. Those were my faults. And they brought me to a point where I didn’t know what to do. So, I fell into a deep postnatal depression.

Harley Street Counselling and Training: How did you manage the tension (if any) between the fantasy verses the reality of motherhood?

Vickey -
My fantasy was not a positive one really so there was no tension. I never had a wish for what it would be like. I knew it would be hard and it was but it was also very rewarding. The sleep deprivation was an issue for me and I didn’t really know how to cope with the isolation. I remember thinking there are new mothers all over the world stuck in their own houses breastfeeding and watching Jeremy Kyle for the 6th day in a row. It becomes very important to have a network of other mums and to get out the house as much as you can manage.

Hattie - I don’t think I did really! I didn’t know how much support I would require and how difficult it would be to get support or indeed ask for it. I was the first of all my friends to have a baby so felt like I’d left them behind in a different country. It was fruitless trying to explain to them what it was like because it was like I was speaking a different language. It was a very lonely time. In subsequent pregnancies, I was armed with the knowledge that it is temporary isolation and we put support structures in place to pre-empt any potential disappoint in the lack of support from others.

For example, when I had my second child I was terrified that he was also going to be a colicky baby which would be harder second time around with a 2-year-old to manage. Although I had a hugely supportive partner he was incredibly busy at work and more often than not absent during the week. We sat down and worked out how much we could afford to pay someone to come and help for a couple of hours a week. The postnatal doula we had for 3 hours a week was an extra pair of hands but she was also a hugely important psychological support for me – just to know that someone was coming was enough.

Beth -. At first, I didn’t manage. I turned to alcohol and drank a lot. I cried a lot. And just wanted it all to stop. It took a year of therapy to realise that the person I was before I had my children was not my true self. I had my perceptions and expectations in the wrong place, in my fantasy world with my fantasy self. With that said, going through the depression, and coming out the other end was the most confronting and positive life-changing experience. It has made me more accepting of who I am and a much more open and understanding Mum today.

Harley Street Counselling and Training: If you could choose a question to be asked about motherhood, what would be the question?

Vickey -
I would ask what the best and worst things about motherhood are.

Beth - How did you get to a point where you accepted your new life?

Harley Street Counselling and Training: How would you answer your question?

Vickey -
The best thing was that my daughter filled a hole I never knew existed. I have a purpose and a little human to look after. The joy you get from having a child is not something you can explain to anyone I don’t think. It’s just the best thing in the world when you make them laugh & they start communicating with you.

The worst thing for me is the freedom. I don’t really get to go to many places on my own and I miss that. My husband doesn’t get back from work until 8 pm most evenings so I can’t really go out during the week. Having to arrange childcare in order to do something is the worst thing for me, especially when you are used to being very sociable.

Beth - I had lots of therapy - addressing my past, specifically my relationships with my parents, accepting and committing to my new life, finding my core values, and constantly working on what is important to me.

Harley Street Counselling and Training: In a sentence; what words of wisdom can you pass to new Mums?

Vicky -
I would say take it slow, they really are only little for a short time. I would say try and do something for you as often as you can. Go out for a coffee on your own, have a bath on your own and take it in turns with your partner so you both get a break. Also, make time for your partner. Try and get a date night occasionally, it does you the world of good!

Hattie - Hang tight and be kind to yourself; new-borns change very quickly and every day, week and month will get easier.

Beth - It's ok to ask for help, it's ok to accept help, and it's ok to not be perfect because it too shall pass.

Thanks again to Vickey, Hattie, and Beth for contributing open responses which help to normalise the varied experiences that mums go through. The need for support appears to be a thread that runs throughout, along with the loss of the life they had before pregnancy. Putting in place support networks for, at least, the foreseeable problems might be a very important factor. Women often face pressure to be the perfect Mum and may experience low self-esteem.

One-third of UK mums have difficulty bonding with their baby, leading to feelings of shame and inadequacy. According to a recent study, nearly half of new mothers with mental health issues go undiagnosed and untreated. The most serious of these issues included postnatal depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder and postpartum psychosis. Out of 1012 women surveyed by NCT, half said they had experienced mental health problems at some during their pregnancy, or within a year of giving birth.

Feel free to get in touch if motherhood is having a profound effect on your life. We are able to provide psychotherapy, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and counselling for postnatal depression in Tunbridge Wells.