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18th March 2019 

Welcome to Harley Street Counselling and Training

Every service we offer is underpinned by an integrated approach towards personal support.

With 19 years of experience in the field, we have developed a team which provides psychotherapy, counselling, CBT, and Logotherapy. We aim to offer your first appointment within a week of your initial enquiry. Therapy takes place in rooms located in Harley Street, Liverpool Street, Rochester and Tunbridge Wells .

Contact us now for a free confidential chat with an experienced therapist to discuss your options.

Counselling Locations in London and Kent

Find out more about counselling in Harley Street, central London.

View more about counselling in Liverpool Street, city of London, EC2M.

Find a counsellor in Tunbridge Wells from therapy rooms in Upper Grosvenor Road, TN1.

Learn more about Medway counselling in Rochester.

Addiction therapy • Alcohol counselling

Do you need to eliminate alcohol from your life?
Addiction is best worked with therapeutically when there is a good support network around you. The input from a G.P or Psychiatrist to manage physical withdrawal and full engagement with a group such as Alcoholics Anonymous are highly beneficial.
We support the idea of abstinence and the AA 12 step approach to recovery. We have worked with many clients who are engaged in the fellowship whilst working with us. Acknowledging that AA is not for everyone, we also work with people who choose abstinence through alternative methods.

To book an appointment for alcohol counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

'One drink is too many and one hundred is not enough'.

What points can you relate to when reflecting on your relationship with alcohol?
  • I cannot stop at one drink.
  • I frequently try to give up alcohol or reduce my drinking but find this unsustainable.
  • I cannot fulfil promises to myself and others to give up drinking.
  • I am deceptive about how much I am drinking.
  • I use alcohol to change the way I feel.
  • Using alcohol has consequences in my life.
  • I wish I could drink 'normally' like other people.

  • Therapy could help you identify healthy ways of working with feelings and dealing with underlying issues.

    Alcohol has been proven to increase the risk of symptoms of anxiety and depression, therefore, alcohol does not solve problems, it reinforces them.

    To book an appointment for addiction counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    Adult children of alcoholics

    An Adult Child is an adult who grew up in a dysfunctional environment where the parent was an alcoholic or an addict.

    Janet G. Woititz (1990) published 'Adult Children of Alcoholics' - describes the experience of an Adult Child as having common personality traits.

  • Adult Children of Alcoholics guess at what normal behaviour is.
  • They have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
  • They lie when it would be just as easy, to tell the truth.
  • They take themselves very seriously.
  • There is difficulty with intimate relationships.
  • Overreact to changes.
  • Constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  • Either super responsible or irresponsible and impulsive.
  • Extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.

    Change is facilitated by working through emotional and psychological issues in therapy.

    To book an appointment in Harley Street, Liverpool Street, Rochester or Tunbridge Wells please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

  • Anxiety counselling

    Are you becoming more and more consumed by overthinking and worry?

    Anxiety is the feeling of unease or fear when faced with a threatening or difficult situation, either real or perceived. It is also one of the most common reasons why people seek the support of a counsellor at Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    How does anxiety manifest?
    Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) often relates to worry and overthinking. Social anxiety disorder extends to concerns about public ridicule, embarrassment or being judged.

    Panic disorder is often experienced as overwhelmingly sudden feelings of terror which could induce a panic attack.

    Somatisation, where emotions manifest as physical symptoms. The pain is medically unexplained. However, it is real. Sometimes existing pain from physical causes can be made worse by focusing on pain.

    Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety-based mental health issue. It has proven that working with the behavioural aspects of OCD is the most effective way of working.

    Anxiety symptoms commonly reported by clients in counselling.

  • Physical
    Hyperventilating, shortness of breath, palpitations, muscle tension, nausea, butterflies, increased trips to the toilet, headaches, eye strain, tinitus, dry mouth, sweating, shaking, restless energy (adrenaline), twitches, dizziness, and too little or too much sleep.

  • Psychological
    Worry, feelings of unease, over thinking, catastrophising, obsessive thinking, black and White/all or nothing thinking, perfectionist, overwhelming emotions, low self-esteem, fear of being judged, a harsh self critic, feeling emotionally younger, difficulty concentrating, poor short term memory, indecisive, feeling out of control and too many thoughts at once.

  • Behavioural
    Avoidance, checking, over researching symptoms, seeking reassurance, self medicating, restlessness, attempts to control environment.

    To book an appointment for anxiety counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

  • Bereavement counselling

    Counselling can be supportive during a difficult and painful time. The loss of a loved one can have a big impact on us. From numbness to a range of emotions, feeling bereft of someone close to us can affect us in many ways.

    Feelings of grief can come and go and we may go through cycles of anger, denial, despair, depression whilst adjusting to life without our loved one. A bereavement counsellor can offer you a safe space to support you through this process that has no fixed time limit. Acceptance may form a large part of the healing and you will know when you feel ready.

    We can also experience feelings of grief and loss whenever a major change or event occurs in life. Such changes might include separation, divorce, our response to an affair or betrayal, loss of health, moving home, difficulty conceiving, IVF treatment, miscarriage, abortion, children leaving home, redundancy, or retirement.

    Feelings that come with grief and loss are a natural response to life changes. However, long-term it can lead to depression and anxiety. Psychotherapists and counsellors at Harley Street Counselling and Training are here to provide a confidential space where you can be heard in a safe, confidential environment.

    To book an appointment for bereavement counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Harley Street, Liverpool Street or Rochester please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    Codependency counselling

    The characteristics of co-dependency are not exclusive to partners of alcoholics or addicts - it's quite a wide area.

    If you were raised in a dysfunctional environment as a child or had a parent that was ill growing up, it increases the chances of co-dependency in adulthood, but again, not exclusive. It's worth considering counselling and psychotherapy if you relate to some of the statements outlined.

  • My mood is determined by the mood of others.
  • I like things to be perfect and sometimes feel bad about myself when they're not.
  • I have difficulty saying "NO!"
  • What others think is really important to me. I worry about being judged.
  • I neglect my own needs to accommodate others.
  • I do not know what I need or how I feel.
  • I am unclear of my own interests and become immersed in the interests of others.
  • I tend to please people, often to my own detriment.
  • I am drawn to people who need me.
  • I feel rejected if my help is not wanted or needed.
  • I feel responsible for the feelings of others.
  • I blame others for the way I feel.
  • I hold many resentments and find it hard to let things go.
  • I tend to avoid conflict.
  • Sometimes I use alcohol or other substances to change the way I feel.
  • Sometimes I feel the need to control those around me.
  • I feel like I always need to be in a relationship and struggle to end relationships.
  • I struggle to receive compliments from others.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training offer counselling and psychotherapy to facilitate change. It might be useful to attend CoDA which is a 12-step programme for additional support where you will meet others in recovery.

    To book an appointment for codependency counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

  • Counselling for depression

    There are several types of Depression such as reactive, postnatal depression, season-affective disorder (SAD), bipolar types I and II. In general, sufferers of depression might experience low mood, highs, lows, worthlessness, meaninglessness, difficulty concentrating, short-term memory loss, mood swings, low self-esteem, lack of motivation, lethargy, lack of enthusiasm and negative thoughts.

    Depression can make socialising more difficult and impact on our relationships, work, interests and wellbeing. Some people mask depression, hiding it from others and may appear happy. In the case of bipolar, the person may experience regular highs and lows.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training accept referrals for mild to moderate depression, bipolar, reactive depression and seasonal affective disorder. Depression that occurs up to two years after giving birth is known as Post-Natal Depression. Counselling can be used as a support during this period.

    To book an appointment for depression counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    Counselling for postnatal depression

    Depression that occurs up to two years after giving birth is known as Post-Natal depression.
    You may experience low mood, worthlessness, meaninglessness, lethargy, mood swings and a lack of confidence and self-esteem. These symptoms may be present for women, men and partners and may gradually creep up on you rather than feel immediately obvious.

    NHS Choices describe the symptoms as:

  • A persistent feeling of sadness and low mood

  • Lack of enjoyment and loss of interest in the wider world

  • Trouble sleeping at night and feeling sleepy during the day

  • Difficulty bonding with your baby

  • Withdrawing from contact with other people

  • Problems concentrating and making decisions

  • Frightening thoughts – for example, about hurting your baby

  • Speaking from experience, several themes seem to stand out for clients who come to therapy for postnatal depression such as:

    Unresolved family and friendship issues: Tensions, resentments, or past disagreements that go unresolved (prior to a child being born) tends to come back and affect the person overwhelmingly.

    Unresolved grief: from our past.

    Adjusting: To the unforeseen changes that occur in life when a new baby arrives.

    Over compensating: Feeling the need to ‘make it up’ to people on your return to work after having time on maternity leave and putting your needs last.

    Competition: A real or perceived experience of competitive parents within the latest baby and toddler group. This often impacts self-worth and self-esteem.

    Heightened awareness: Feelings of anxiety and going deeper into overthinking and worry.

    The feeling of loneliness: even if we have people around us we may still feel a sense of withdrawal and isolation.

    These feelings are also echoed in contributions made by Tunbridge Wells mums to our blog post.

    To book an appointment for counselling for postnatal depression in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    Counselling for Jealousy and insecurity

    Do you feel insecure about friendships or relationships? Do you blame the others for the way you feel? Do you try to find evidence that your partner is untrustworthy, even setting traps to catch them out? Do you fear being abandoned?

    Recurring jealousy is a powerful form of insecurity that results in emotional outbursts and is driven by irrational thinking. Habitual jealousy can be toxic to relationships. You may find that you concentrate so much on what your partner might be up to; sacrificing your own freedom and living your own life within a loving relationship. Even if we feel justified, our reactions do not promote a good way forward for the relationship to flourish.

    Carrying the burden of these feelings can contaminate our self-esteem and we may feel angry, inadequate, and dependent. Jealousy can feel all-consuming and can leave you feeling exhausted and miserable.

    Feelings of jealousy can be overwhelming and can become the bone of contention within your relationships. The more jealous we feel, the more controlling our behaviour becomes. Psychotherapy and counselling can help you to explore the causes of jealousy and manage overwhelming feelings and insecurities.

    To book an appointment for counselling for jealousy in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    Stress counselling • Stress management

    Stress can touch anyone regardless of who you are or what you do for a living. Stress occurs when the demands of our lives consistently outweigh our ability to cope. We often experience this as pressure and can lead to anxiety, depression or can lead to 'burn out'.

    Burnout: This is normally a result of overstimulation or excessive stress. Physical, psychological and emotional exhaustion, frustration, intolerance, relationship issues, lack of self-care, low mood and lack of motivation are likely to be some of the indicators of burn out.

    Over time, you find that you are losing energy; as your zest for life fades. By now this may have impacted important relationships and work life. A counsellor can help you spot the signs, manage the symptoms, work on preventative measures and go forward with greater meaning and purpose.

    Rust out:Otherwise known as 'bore out'; it is the opposite of a burn out yet the symptoms are pretty much the same. Rust out is normally a result of under stimulation. Apathy, boredom, disinterest and lack of meaning are common experiences.

    To book an appointment for stress counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Rochester, Liverpool Street, or Harley Street, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    Additional interest & speciality

    Supportive counselling for chronic fatigue syndrome.
    A programme of pacing can be negotiated and the impact of the loss of health can be explored. How energy is distributed is also key, for example, worry and anxiety can be a component in some cases which uses up a lot of much-needed energy. Strategies to minimise the symptoms of chronic fatigue can be discussed with your therapist.

    Brief Solution Focused Therapy in Tunbridge Wells.

    Counselling for adults with dyslexia and dyspraxia.

    Specialist therapy for OCD using CBT in Tunbridge Wells.

    Gestalt psychotherapy techniques for recurring dreams and nightmares.

    Boxing: Psychotherapy and counselling for boxers (Amateur, Professional and Retired).
    The sport of boxing has a unique culture and we respect the dedication required to perform. We offer therapy for the psychological stress of the sport, as well as the impacts and strains that go with the territory. We also understand how sportsmen & women can endure common life and mental health issues.

    Narcissistic or Borderline abuse (intended or unintended) in important relationships.

    To book an appointment in Harley Street, Liverpool Street, Rochester or Tunbridge Wells please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.