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4th July 2020 

Private counselling in Tunbridge Wells. London. And online.

Tim Potter leads a small team of therapists who have a high level of competence and effectiveness in the following areas. Psychotherapy, counselling, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), EMDR, and Logotherapy.

How can counselling help?

Addiction
Addiction therapy and alcohol counselling in Tunbridge Wells.
ACoA
Adult children of alcoholics and/or emotionally immature parents.
Anxiety
Generalised anxiety disorder, health anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), somatisation, and panic disorder.
Bereavement
Counselling for grief, loss, change and adjustment.
Co-dependency
Helping the compulsive helper. Regain your identity, establish boundaries and develop your sense of self.
Couple counselling
Couples counselling in Tunbridge Wells.
Depression
Specialist in counselling post natal depression for 20 years. Effective counselling for reactive, chronic, and mild to moderate depression.
Jealousy and insecurity
Overwhelmed by feelings of fear, inadequacy, anger, resentment, helplessness and disgust?
Stress Management
Head off the risk of burnout through counselling for stress.
Supervision
For counsellors, psychotherapists and allied health professionals.
Training
Private tuition for counselling training. As supplementary learning.
Trauma
Trauma therapy using EMDR or the Rewind Technique.


Home. BACP Registered Tim

Tim Potter - MBACP (Accred) & Registered - Member of the UK Chapter of Logotherapy

Recognised psychotherapist with AXA PPP, Bupa, Aviva, Cigna, Simply Health, WPA, Allianz, and Medisure.

Way of working.
Counselling is user-centred, which means that you are included in the process when we agree the therapeutic work. This places you in charge of what you would like to gain from therapy. Where appropriate I am able to integrate my approach to what is developmentally needed in the therapy work. I regularly monitor how clients experience counselling because this helps to keep focused on what we have agreed to do. This approach underpins my attitude to therapy. I offer compassion and empathy throughout the process whilst being straightforward with you. I offer therapeutic tools, techniques, and interventions as and when they are relevant and welcome.

Should you decide to get in touch, please offer me an outline of what is troubling you and how you hope I can help you. We can then explore what the next step is, be it when my next available appointment is, or I can put you in touch with someone more suitable within the Harley Street Counselling and Training team. If we cannot help you within our group of counsellors, then we can do our best to signpost you to a 'trusted other' outside of our own counselling practice.

Client base.
I offer both short-term counselling and CBT for common issues and obstacles to well-being or long term psychotherapy for more complex issues. Although I work with a broad range of people, I frequently work with clients who seek counselling for post-natal depression, anxiety and excessive worry, addiction. confidence and self esteem, adult children of alcoholics and/or emotionally immature parents.

I have gained significant experience working in alcohol addiction counselling and codependency issues. I am very familiar with the 12-step process of addiction recovery which can form part of the work if required. Clients gaining support from A/A, Coda, O/A, SLAA, N/A and Al-Anon are welcome.

Therapeutic models
Originally, I qualified in Humanistic therapeutic counselling (Person-centred therapy, T.A, and Gestalt) in 2000; with subsequent training in psychodynamic counselling and Self-Reparenting/Ego-state techniques. I have training in CBT and have specific training using CBT for obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). I am also a fully qualified clinician in Viktor Frankls' Logotherapy.

Professional experience.
Over 20 years in practice as a counsellor with, extensive experience working from private hospital & private practice settings. I have worked as an individual & group CBT therapist, both at the Priory, and Cygnet Hospital, where I have worked therapeutically on the general therapy programme for anxiety and depression. I also have experience with Addiction Programmes, Eating Disorder Unit, Adolescent Unit and the Mother & Baby Unit for Postnatal Depression.

I have run anxiety groups for Virgin Atlantic's Flying without Fear and have set up voluntary counselling service for sufferers (and family members/carers of) of Chronic Illness. In the past, I received training and referrals from the charity Bliss.

I have intermittently worked alongside consultant psychiatrists who are experts in Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Providing supportive counselling for sufferers through a programme of pacing whilst exploring the impact of the loss of health. Exploring how energy is distributed is also key, for example, worry and anxiety can be a component in some cases which uses up a lot of much-needed energy. Strategies to minimise the symptoms of chronic fatigue greatly supports this process.

Lecturing and counselling training.
I have been a reviewer and developer of exam papers and mark schemes for psychotherapeutic counselling studies Level 2 to Level 6 with both AQA and AIM Awards. I have also worked under a contract for hire with the BACP working on the certificate of proficiency, which is the process of how counsellors can be registered.

I have lectured CPCAB Levels 3, 4 & 5 counselling qualifications in Kent and have co-authored/co-facilitated a Diploma in Supervision for Counsellors, Psychotherapists and Allied Healthcare Professionals, independently in East Sussex.

Research and special interests.
In the field, I have extensively researched how psychotherapy can contribute to the psychological welfare of boxers (amateur, professional, and retired) since the mid-2000s.

Other areas:
Critical thinking in counselling, The use of humour in psychotherapy. Gestalt psychotherapy techniques for recurring dreams and nightmares.

Contact us for counselling, Logotherapy, and CBT in Tunbridge Wells.

Contact us to see a counsellor in Harley Street.


Addiction therapy • Alcohol counselling

Do you need to eliminate alcohol from your life?
Addiction counselling works best when there is a good support network in place. This could be family, friends and input from a G.P or psychiatrist (to manage physical withdrawal) and full engagement with a local group such as Alcoholics Anonymous.

'One drink is too many and one hundred is not enough'.


Can you relate to the following statements?
  • I cannot stop at one drink.
  • I frequently try to give up alcohol or reduce my drinking but find this unsustainable.
  • I cannot fulfil promises to myself and others to give up drinking.
  • I am deceptive about how much I am drinking.
  • I use alcohol to change the way I feel.
  • Using alcohol has consequences in my life.
  • I wish I could drink 'normally' like other people.


  • Psychotherapy and counselling could help you identify healthy ways of working with your feelings and dealing with underlying issues.

    Alcohol has been proven to increase the risk of symptoms of anxiety and depression, therefore, alcohol does not solve problems, it reinforces them. Focused CBT can help you to create healthier alternative behaviours.

    Experience of addiction counselling
    Tim Potter - I support abstinence based recovery and the AA 12 step approach. I have worked with many clients who are engaged in the fellowship whilst working with me in addiction counselling. In some cases I may work with people who choose an abstinence based recovery through alternative methods. I am an addiction counsellor in Tunbridge Wells. I also have a lot of counselling experience to offer adult children of alcoholics (ACoA) and have a wealth of experience working with Co-dependency as well as sex and love addiction.

    Book an appointment for private addiction counselling and/or alcohol counselling in Tunbridge Wells Contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.


    Adult children of alcoholics

    An Adult Child is an adult who grew up in a dysfunctional environment where the parent was an alcoholic or an addict.

    Janet G. Woititz (1990) published 'Adult Children of Alcoholics' - describes the experience of an Adult Child as having common personality traits.


  • Adult Children of Alcoholics guess at what normal behaviour is.
  • They have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
  • They lie when it would be just as easy, to tell the truth.
  • They take themselves very seriously.
  • There is difficulty with intimate relationships.
  • Overreact to changes.
  • Constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  • Either super responsible or irresponsible and impulsive.
  • Extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.

    Change is facilitated by working through emotional and psychological issues in therapy.

    To book a private appointment in London, remotely using online technology , or in Tunbridge Wells, Kent, for counselling please email Harley Street Counselling and Training.


  • Anxiety counselling and health anxiety.

    Are you becoming more and more consumed by overthinking and worry?

    Anxiety is the feeling of unease or fear when faced with a threatening or difficult situation, either real or perceived. It is also one of the most common reasons why people seek the support of a counsellor at Harley Street Counselling and Training.

    How does anxiety manifest?
    Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) often relates to worry and overthinking. Social anxiety disorder extends to concerns about public ridicule, embarrassment or being judged.

    Panic disorder is often experienced as overwhelmingly sudden feelings of terror which could induce a panic attack.

    Somatisation, where emotions manifest as physical symptoms. The pain is medically unexplained. However, it is real. Sometimes existing pain from physical causes can be made worse by focusing on pain.

    Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety-based mental health issue. It has proven that working with the behavioural aspects of OCD is the most effective way of working. Specialist therapy for OCD using CBT is available in Tunbridge Wells.

    Anxiety symptoms commonly reported by clients in counselling.

  • Physical
    Hyperventilating, shortness of breath, palpitations, muscle tension, nausea, butterflies, increased trips to the toilet, headaches, eye strain, tinnitus, dry mouth, sweating, shaking, restless energy (adrenaline), twitches, dizziness, and too little or too much sleep.

  • Psychological
    Worry, feelings of unease, over thinking, catastrophising, obsessive thinking, black and White/all or nothing thinking, perfectionist, overwhelming emotions, low self-esteem, fear of being judged, a harsh self critic, feeling emotionally younger, difficulty concentrating, poor short term memory, indecisive, feeling out of control and too many thoughts at once.

  • Behavioural
    Avoidance, checking, over researching symptoms, seeking reassurance, self-medicating, restlessness, attempts to control the environment.

    Experience of anxiety counselling.
    Tim Potter - Together we can develop a combination of techniques to suit your needs, having had weekly experience as an anxiety counsellor over 20 years. We won't be limited to CBT techniques, I can draw upon Humansitic ideas and Logotherapy coherently to inform the structure we build. I have, in the past, run psycho-educational groups for anxiety in private hospital settings over several years.

    To book a private appointment for anxiety counselling in Tunbridge Wells, London or online, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training. .


  • Bereavement counselling

    Counselling can be supportive during a difficult and painful time. The loss of a loved one can have a big impact on us. From numbness to a range of emotions, feeling bereft of someone close to us can affect us in many ways.

    Feelings of grief can come and go and we may go through cycles of anger, denial, despair, depression whilst adjusting to life without our loved one. A bereavement counsellor can offer you a safe space to support you through this process that has no fixed time limit. Acceptance may form a large part of the healing and you will know when you feel ready.

    We can also experience feelings of grief and loss whenever a major change or event occurs in life. Such changes might include separation, divorce, our response to an affair or betrayal, loss of health, moving home, difficulty conceiving, IVF treatment, miscarriage, abortion, children leaving home, redundancy, or retirement.

    Feelings that come with grief and loss are a natural response to life changes. However, long-term it can lead to depression and anxiety. Psychotherapists and counsellors at Harley Street Counselling and Training are here to provide a confidential space where you can be heard in a safe, confidential environment.

    Bereavement counselling in Tunbridge Wells, or remotely using online technology or from our London office, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.


    Codependency counselling

    The characteristics of co-dependency are not exclusive to partners of alcoholics or addicts - it's quite a wide area.

    If you were raised in a dysfunctional environment as a child or had a parent that was ill growing up, it increases the chances of co-dependency in adulthood, but again, not exclusive. It's worth considering counselling and psychotherapy if you relate to some of the statements outlined.

  • My mood is determined by the mood of others.
  • I like things to be perfect and sometimes feel bad about myself when they're not.
  • I have difficulty saying "NO!"
  • What others think is really important to me. I worry about being judged.
  • I neglect my own needs to accommodate others.
  • I do not know what I need or how I feel.
  • I am unclear of my own interests and become immersed in the interests of others.
  • I tend to please people, often to my own detriment.
  • I am drawn to people who need me.
  • I feel rejected if my help is not wanted or needed.
  • I feel responsible for the feelings of others.
  • I blame others for the way I feel.
  • I hold many resentments and find it hard to let things go.
  • I tend to avoid conflict.
  • Sometimes I use alcohol or other substances to change the way I feel.
  • Sometimes I feel the need to control those around me.
  • I feel like I always need to be in a relationship and struggle to end relationships.
  • I struggle to receive compliments from others.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training offer counselling and psychotherapy to facilitate change. It might be useful to attend CoDA which is a 12-step programme for additional support where you will meet others in recovery.

    To book an appointment for codependency counselling in Tunbridge Wells, London or remotely using an online platform, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.


  • Counselling for depression

    There are several types of Depression such as reactive, postnatal depression, season-affective disorder (SAD), bipolar types I and II. In general, sufferers of depression might experience low mood, highs, lows, worthlessness, meaninglessness, difficulty concentrating, short-term memory loss, mood swings, low self-esteem, lack of motivation, lethargy, lack of enthusiasm and negative thoughts.

    Depression can make socialising more difficult and impact on our relationships, work, interests and wellbeing. Some people mask depression, hiding it from others and may appear happy. In the case of bipolar, the person may experience regular highs and lows.

    Harley Street Counselling and Training accept referrals for mild to moderate depression, bipolar, reactive depression and seasonal affective disorder. Depression that occurs up to two years after giving birth is known as Post-Natal Depression. Counselling can be used as a support during this period.


    Counselling for postnatal depression

    Depression that occurs up to two years after giving birth is known as Post-Natal depression.
    You may experience low mood, worthlessness, meaninglessness, lethargy, mood swings and a lack of confidence and self-esteem. These symptoms may be present for women, men and partners and may gradually creep up on you rather than feel immediately obvious.

    NHS Choices describe the symptoms as:

  • A persistent feeling of sadness and low mood

  • Lack of enjoyment and loss of interest in the wider world

  • Trouble sleeping at night and feeling sleepy during the day

  • Difficulty bonding with your baby

  • Withdrawing from contact with other people

  • Problems concentrating and making decisions

  • Frightening thoughts – for example, about hurting your baby

  • Speaking from experience, several themes seem to stand out for clients who come to therapy for postnatal depression such as:

    Unresolved family and friendship issues: Tensions, resentments, or past disagreements that go unresolved (prior to a child being born) tends to come back and affect the person overwhelmingly.

    Unresolved grief: from our past.

    Adjusting: To the unforeseen changes that occur in life when a new baby arrives.

    Over compensating: Feeling the need to ‘make it up’ to people on your return to work after having time on maternity leave and putting your needs last.

    Competition: A real or perceived experience of competitive parents within the latest baby and toddler group. This often impacts self-worth and self-esteem.

    Heightened awareness: Feelings of anxiety and going deeper into overthinking and worry.

    The feeling of loneliness: even if we have people around us we may still feel a sense of withdrawal and isolation.

    These feelings are also echoed in contributions made by Tunbridge Wells mums to our blog post.

    Experience of counselling for post natal depression
    Tim Potter - I have worked in a private mother and baby unit providing therapy for new mothers and have much experience providing private counselling for most forms of depression over 20 years. I am available for counselling for depression in Tunbridge Wells.

    To book an appointment for counselling in Tunbridge Wells, London or remotely using an online platform, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.


    Counselling for Jealousy and insecurity

    Do you feel insecure about friendships or relationships? Do you blame the others for the way you feel? Do you try to find evidence that your partner is untrustworthy, even setting traps to catch them out? Do you fear being abandoned?

    Recurring jealousy is a powerful form of insecurity that results in emotional outbursts and is driven by irrational thinking. Habitual jealousy can be toxic to relationships. You may find that you concentrate so much on what your partner might be up to; sacrificing your own freedom and living your own life within a loving relationship. Even if we feel justified, our reactions do not promote a good way forward for the relationship to flourish.

    Carrying the burden of these feelings can contaminate our self-esteem and we may feel angry, inadequate, and dependent. Jealousy can feel all-consuming and can leave you feeling exhausted and miserable.

    Feelings of jealousy can be overwhelming and can become the bone of contention within your relationships. The more jealous we feel, the more controlling our behaviour becomes. Psychotherapy and counselling can help you to explore the causes of jealousy and manage overwhelming feelings and insecurities.

    To book an appointment for counselling in Tunbridge Wells, London, or remotely using an online platform, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.


    Stress counselling • Stress management

    Stress can touch anyone regardless of who you are or what you do for a living. Stress occurs when the demands of our lives consistently outweigh our ability to cope. We often experience this as pressure and can lead to anxiety, depression or can lead to 'burn out'.

    Burnout: This is normally a result of overstimulation or excessive stress. Physical, psychological and emotional exhaustion, frustration, intolerance, relationship issues, lack of self-care, low mood and lack of motivation are likely to be some of the indicators of burn out.

    Over time, you find that you are losing energy; as your zest for life fades. By now this may have impacted important relationships and work life. A counsellor can help you spot the signs, manage the symptoms, work on preventative measures and go forward with greater meaning and purpose.

    Rust out:Otherwise known as 'bore out'; it is the opposite of a burn out yet the symptoms are pretty much the same. Rust out is normally a result of under stimulation. Apathy, boredom, disinterest and lack of meaning are common experiences.

    Experience of therapy for stress.
    Tim Potter - I have worked in private mental health settings providing both individual and group therapy for 20 years. I have specifically run Stress Management groups during this time. I now apply this through individual counselling, psychotherapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in Tunbridge Wells. I also run extended, intensive sessions on a monthly basis in Harley Street, central London subject to availability.

    To book an appointment for stress counselling in Tunbridge Wells, London, or remotely via an online platform, please contact Harley Street Counselling and Training.


    Trauma therapy and EMDR in Tunbridge Wells.

    We have therapists who use EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing. This involves the use of structured protocols to help support you through a traumatic life experience. This must take place in person in order for the therapy to be contained and safe for both the client and the counsellor. Our trauma therapist is based in Tunbridge Wells and can be accessed through our online contact form. Contact us


    Supervision.

    Tim Potter - holds a Diploma in Supervision (Merit), studied at the Wealden Psychology Institute. 13 years’ experience as a qualified supervisor.

    I practice the theoretical, philosophical, and practical aspects of clinical and counselling supervision. I work with supervisees of different counselling modalities and experience levels. Past supervees have included: psychiatrists who use counselling interventions, counsellors working in independent schools, external consultant supervision for therapists at West Kent YMCA and private practitioners of counselling and psychotherapy.

    Currently I provide consultant supervision (supervision of supervision) to several NRCPD sign language interpreters (who as a profession are relatively new to the concepts of supervision) who are studying supervision practice. I also currently work with cognitive behavioural therapists and humanistic counsellors. I am open to working with new supervisees in Harley Street in central London, from Tunbridge Wells, or remotely using an online platform.


    Training.

    Private tuition for counsellors in training - levels 2 to level 6.
    Subject to the following:

  • The material you are seeking assistance with, fits my own knowledge base.
  • Falls within my own level of competency.
  • An agreement is negotiated on what the work is and the purpose of it.
  • To be purely treated as an opportunity for supplementary learning.
  • I will not be drawn into the scrutinising courses, tutors or suchlike.
  • Triads for skills practice welcome for robust feedback on skills or observation skills.

    Available in Tunbridge Wells or remotely via an online platform.